A List Of Affirmations Is Not Self-Love

Someone told Priebe a hundred times a day that they loved her. They loved her body, her determination, her struggles, and the strength that it took her to overcome each challenge. They wrote poems and left notes on your mirror to remind you how much they loved you.

The person was your biggest problem. This person never took action on their affections. Let’s say they encouraged you to gorge on junk food, go to the gym and spend a lot of money.

They don’t show up for you before you question their motives. You can repeat a thousand Affirmations an hour, write a lot of posts about how you’re worthy of love, and keep millions of post-it notes reminding yourself how awesome you are.

Real self-love is more about parenting yourself than babying yourself. Affirmations and self-talk are important, but they are not a substitute for taking care of yourself in concrete ways, such as putting yourself to bed at 10 and treating your body with respect.

Self-love is not about treating yourself like a young child. It’s about making yourself feel better. Self-love is about self-parenting and self-monitoring. It also means self development, no matter how hard the process is.

The harder you work, the less often you need to treat yourself. The simplest way to know if someone else loves you is to ask, “Do they show the hell up for you when it matters?” There is a problem.

You may have to work on self-love if you don’t love yourself. The author was born in Canada and lives in New York. She doesn’t like the fact that she’s a queen.